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Connie DeSimone

November 6,1940 - November 24,2000

My Mother, My Best Friend....

I am 29 years old and my mother Connie just passed away Thanksgiving late evening from her battle with colon cancer. She was diagnosed almost 3 years ago. I'll never forget the day my dad told me. She had abdominal pains and my dad took her to the emergency room and the doctors had to perform an emergency operation. They found out that she was already at Stage III of the colon cancer. I was devestated. Here my mother was not only my mother, she was my best friend. She went through her chemotherapy and tried all of the treatments they gave her. My mother was very strong and always told me she would beat it. She went through 3 operations within those 3 years and there I was, taking care of her..driving her to the doctors, spending all my time with her,taking care of her like she took care of me all my life...sharing my life with her. I was very dependent all my life on her. Growing up as a child through high school, there she was, always involved with my school activities and spending time and catering to my friends and family members and welcomed them with open arms. Everyone just loved her. i adored her...i wanted to be just like her and follow in her footsteps on how she raised me with our family. I'm married and have a step-daughter and i show her and my husband the love she gave to my dad, my sister, and me. However, this past May of 2000, the doctors performed her final operation on her and told her that she had 3 months to live. At that time, i had come by the house everyday, spending time with her, talking with her, and all she kept saying was she wanted to be alive for her 60th bday which was November 6th. Well, she began losing weight, yet she was still walking around and I thank God for keeping her on this earth for her 60th bday! It was wonderful...we all took her out to dinner and although she was tired and weak, she still enjoyed her day. Then we decided to have Thanksgiving dinner at my house, but my mom took a turn for the worse the following week. She was bedridden, so we decided to surprise and bring Thanksgiving to her. My husband cooked, the whole family came over, she sat at the table with us in her wheelchair and played with her two grandchildren and we said we were thankful that she was here to spend today with us. The whole early part of the afternoon was wonderful. She had her makeup on and her pretty wig on and we told her she looked beautiful (because she did!). Then towards dessert time she started to get really tired so we helped her out of the wheel chair to put her back into bed and she fainted. The hospice nurse came and said she was fine so we stayed with her. But she was up to say her "goodbyes" to the whole family. I however, knew something wasn't right, so i saw her before i left and held her hand and told her i loved her and she was the best mother in the world and that i will be ok and not to worry about me (because i was so dependent on her) and she looked at me very weak, smiled, and said "Thank You" and "I Love You too" and i went home so she can rest and i told her i'd see her first thing in the morning. Well, that night around 3:00am my dad called and said she had passed away with him at her side peacefully. We were just sooo thankful that she spent the whole day with her ENTIRE family and was fine and in good sprits. God works in mysterious ways. I'm sooo upset right now because in one case i miss her and want her here, but on the other hand, she was suffering and i hated seeing my mother in pain, especially since she was such a strong woman and never complained of pain ONCE! The funeral this past weekend was very hard for me yet my mother looked like she was 40! She looked so beautiful and young, and at one point walking in the church today at her funeral i was sooo upset i asked her to help me get through this, and i will NEVER EVER forget this, but today was an overcast, cloudy day. When we were in church and the song "Ave Maria" came on, this bright beam of sunlight came down right on top of me through the stained glass windows. Everyone at the church were just estatic that they couldn't believe how the sun slanted right on top of ONLY me. They all said that was something they will never forget. The sun didn't hit my husband on my left nor my grandmother on my right, it just went right on top of me and i did nothing but stare at this bright sunlight and cry and thanking her for letting me know that she was alright because i do belive that was her in heaven shining down on my face. I guess it will get better in time. I miss her, I love her, yet i will always keep her inside me and i have asked her to put her strength that she had into me because I am going to need it. I have a matching angel pin that i had put on my mother before they buried her and i have the other one on me ALL the time so i know that she is here and she is my guardian angel watching over me for the rest of my life here on earth until i can meet her again in heaven. I know she is with her mother and father in heaven now, and I will try to be strong in the days, weeks, months, years, lifetime to come! Mom, this tribute is dedicated to you because you left this earth with dignity, respect, and love and we ALL love you and you will be deeply missed! Love always your daughter, Daria xoxoxo

Thoughts and Rememberence of My Mom and Me....

Mom...my thoughts of you are:

Loving, Beautiful, Caring, Generous, Giving, Understanding, Friendly, Happy, and Strong.........

I remember you mom when you fixed my hair in ponytails at age 5, helped me with my schoolwork, taking us to Pine Brook Rides, teaching me how to bowl at 8 years old, always making me believe in myself, helping me through the awkward years at age 13, being a "band" parent, chaperoning us at band parties, being there to cheer us on in Winterguard at age 16, consoling me with my first love (Mitch), and other crushes in my teenage years when they ended..being generous and kind and becoming best friends when i turned 20 on...sharing my wedding day...looking so proud and happy when i married john like you knew i was going to be taken care of...visiting me in my many apartments, xmas eve holidays every year.....and even though you passed away this year on Thanksgiving...that will be the most memorable day of my life because you were strong enough to spend your last day with your whole family...I love you Mom FOREVER! xoxo

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