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Monday May 12,2008

A beautifull spirit murdered in domestic violence

by Absolutmess

My mother was savagely beaten beyond recognition by her husband of 1 year. Her body was found June 3rd, 2004. The police were called to the scene on June 1st, 2004 by 3 neighbors that witnessed John Sandy Ingraham, of Tulsa, Oklahoma, beating her on the front porch. He dragged her into the house, screaming for help.

When the police arrived a few minutes later, the witnesses told them what they saw and told them that they were still in the house. Police failed to enter her home. They sited the probable cause law as the reason they did not enter. They knocked on both doors, got no response, and left.

On June 3rd at 3 a.m. in the morning John put an anonymous call in to the police from his cell phone, and he hid out in the woods watching my mother's house. When he called, he told them they needed to do a welfare check on my my mother, they responded and broke in to find her dead in her bedroom, unrecognizable.

The coroner's report indicates that she was probably still alive when the police arrived the first time. Had they broken in they may have been able to save her life.

The probable cause laws need to be looked at. I personally feel that 3 wittnesses at the scene stating an abuser and his victim are still in the house is enough for probable cause, and my mother may still be alive today.

Since the murder I have a hard time socializing or even being around many people. I can't concentrate, I have nightmares, and flashbacks of the crime even though I was not there, and constant visions in my mind of what I believe took place. I can't even hold down a job now because I can't focus. This man hid in the woods for 2 weeks before he was caught threatening me and my friends, with the same fate my mother suffered. He was watching us from the woods as we cleaned out the house.

It has been a year and almost 2 months and we are still waiting on trial. I still can't really move forward with my life, the trial is always looming. My mother was cremated and rests in an urn on my fireplace mantle so she can always be there to watch over me.

Pray for her please that her spirit is at peace, after being taken in such a brutal way. I miss her more that anyone understands, she was my best friend. I was her only child, and left to cope with this alone. I love you mom.......Heather.

I am the adult daughter of a murder victim.