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Friday May 9,2008

Miss you Gramps!

by Daria

My grandfather (we called him gramps), died on November 30, 2004. He was 92 years old. I miss him so! He was the kind of grandpa growing up playing games with you and making me laugh. We always called him "grouch" because of the way he talked! :)

He lost his wife, my "Mema" on Christmas day 1989, but he remained very healthy until his daughter, my mother, Connie DeSimone, passed away in 2000. When my Mema died, my mother took care of good ol' gramps. He still lived on his own by himself, until my mom passed away from colon cancer on November 24, 2000.

After she passed away, I knew I had to watch over him because there was no one really left in the family to care for him..i.e. foodship, visit, doctor visits, etc. I knew that day my mom passed away he would't be the same and it was only a matter of time. To see his daugther pass on before him was horrible for him.

For the last three years, my sister and i took care of him but we knew he was progressively slowing down. The last year, he was in a nursing home and we still took care of him.

The only thing that upset me is that, yes, I have talked to him and visited him once a week at the nursing home, but my sister had called and said that they called him and he was in the hospital part because he was bleeding in his urine, but he was stabilized. She gave me his phone number to his room and she said she just talked to him and he was fine, eating, and his 90 year old sister was visiting. So she saw him, and my sister talked to him. I said, "ok, I'll call him at lunch."

Well while at work, lunch came and I thought, "Ya know? I'll call him from my car because he won't be able to hear me on my cell phone at work." That was at 1 p.m. 3:30 p.m. comes and my sister called and said Gramps passed away in his sleep! How could this be?!

I feel soo guilty. I didn't get a chance to talk to him. More so over the Thanksgiving holiday I didn't talk to him because it was crazy all over and I was visiting my mom's grave because of her anniversary. So I feel guilty I missed calling him. :(

I'm sorry gramps! You know I was there every week spending time with you! :(

The nurse said he passed away at 3:00pm and he was still fine at 2:45 p.m.! God works in mysterious ways!

He died on November 30, 2004 - 6 days after my mom's anniversary of her death. What a horrible month and I hate these holidays every year even more so now. I know he's with his wife and daughter now and that's how I get through this. He lived a long, long life and I will never forget the special times we all had together as a family...especially playing Bocci Ball at Villa Roma Resort! :)

I miss you Gramps and may you rest in peace! I hope you, Mema, and Mommy continue to watch over me now! I love you!

Your loving granddaughter,

Daria xoxoxo

Daria is a Beyond Indigo Member since 2000. She is 34 years ago, is married, and has lost her beloved mother, Connie, and recently her grandfather, Gerald.